Sebastian

I found out that I was pregnant last May and my due date was 24th January 2017. Finding out that I was pregnant was a mixture of emotions for me.. excitement, panic and scared… but as the time went on and myself and Ainslee went to lots of baby events, classes and found out that 2 of my really good friends were also due around the same time as me (Sarah-Kate and Sarah).. so this made everything really exciting for us and the fact we were just about to buy a house together made it feel like the perfect time for us.

After the 1st trimester of terrible morning, (day and night) sickness I was so glad to be in the 2nd trimester and was loving life completely. I felt so lucky to have an amazing boyfriend and feeling our little baby growing inside of me was THE most magical feeling. By this point we had been to two scans at Stepping Hill Hospital, one at 10 weeks (because me and Ainslee thought I was at 12 weeks already) and then another at 12 weeks. Both scans were so exciting for us, everything was growing perfectly and the midwife always said how good all the measurements were and that because we are both really active and healthy everything will be really straight forward with us.

I got to 20 weeks and I was feeling full of energy and went out for a few of my friends birthday parties (only out for food.. no alcohol of course)… I had exercised throughout the pregnancy so far but was now able to go a bit more regularly as I wasn’t feeling sick 24/7 anymore. We went along for our 20 week scan and we found out we were having a BOY!! As soon as we left the hospital we went shopping and bought the cutest outfits for him and everything seemed really real now.

The next 3 weeks I started to feel much more movement and I remember calling my friend Sarah-Kate and saying to her how excited I was about meeting our babies and how it doesn’t seem far away at all now!

I feel like since I said those words ‘IM SO EXCITED’ everything changed….

I started to feel really flu like and my glands were really swollen.. I just told myself I must be fighting a virus and need to rest and take it easy. Anyway a week had gone by and I hadn’t been to the gym for a few days so went for a workout… anyway that was probably the worst thing I could of done. That night I felt like I had caught the flu…. you know when your body aches and you just want to stay in bed… I decided to have a bath and thought it would help ease my aches and pains… after my bath I went for a wee and noticed some slimy stuff on my leg… it looked like snot and I was a bit confused… I thought it may just have come out after having a bath… I researched this because it had never happened before and it said things on google like ‘You may get a “show” when you are in your final weeks of pregnancy and to call your midwife’ and ‘This could be a sign that you are in early labour’ anyway I remembered that everyone says not to read into things when you try to diagnose yourself through Google so I put it to the back of my mind and hoped I would feel better in the morning. I was around 25 weeks pregnant now so though all the things that I had read of Google wouldn’t apply to me… anyway in the morning I woke up and all day I was needing to wee more and more frequently.. this happened for several days until the 7th October where I woke up and got out of bed… when I stood up a huge gush of what I thought was wee went everywhere… it was at this point that I thought I MUST have a urine infection because I was weeing so much and uncontrollably (I have never had this before).

After going to work that morning I came home and got straight in bed. My flu symptoms were worse than ever and I was still weeing A LOT. It was at that point my mum told me to go to the hospital and get checked over. My mum took me to the hospital where the doctors sent me to the delivery department to just get checked over (Ainlsee was out at work all day so at this point he just thought I was being dramatic and that the nurses would just send me home)…. I was telling the nurses that I think I have an infection so they said to me that they were going to check the babies heart beat and do a few tests just to make sure everything was all okay… I was thinking at worst I would need some antibiotics to get rid of whatever I had. The nurses were all so friendly and as they were trying to find my babies heart beat they kept the atmosphere really positive and not once did I think there was something wrong with my baby. The nurse told me that she couldn’t find the heart beat so she would get a proper scanner so that she could see that the baby was okay. She said sometimes the placenta gets in the way so not to worry. A special doctor then appeared with a big scanner so that we could see the baby. I remember being excited to see him and said to my mum “It’s nice that you get to see him on the screen” because up until then it was only Ainslee and myself who had been to the scans. The lady was really taking her time with the scan and I couldn’t tell if she had found the heart beat or not because the placenta makes a strange noise… (It sounds just like a heat beat to me.)

She hadn’t said anything for what felt like 5 minutes, so I said to her “Is he okay?” she turned around and said to me “He doesn’t have a heart beat” I remember looking at my mum and breaking down in tears. We both cried in each others arms and I just didn’t know what to do. I rang Ainslee straight away and all I could say to him was “There is no heart beat.. He’s dead!” Ainslee didn’t understand and Im sure he was seriously confused but he said he would come and see me straight away. We then had to go in for another scan to confirm his death… I felt numb and the only way I can explain the way I felt was like there was a dead baby inside of me. As soon as she said he wasn’t alive I could explain exactly how I was feeling…not flu like, feverish or unwell… but like my baby had died. I felt lifeless and like my world had ended.

Before we knew it, it was 6pm and myself and Ainslee were sat in the bereavement ward and I was been given a tablet to induce my labour. Not only was I heart broken about loosing my baby… I now had to process the fact that I was going to go into labour, which I didn’t think I would have to do for another 13 weeks and I had no idea what I had to do.

During the night I was in a lot of pain and by 9am the following morning I was in full on labour.

Sebastian Ainslee Shafto was born at 11:20am on the 8th October and seeing him for the first time was so hard for both of us. We were devastated and had no idea why this had happened to us.

The Merlin Alderley Edge

So we were invited along to try out The Merlin in Alderley Edge on Sunday and because Ainslee (my boyfriend) hates roast dinners I couldn’t wait to have one after missing my mums roast dinners from what felt like a life time ago.

The Merlin is on the main road coming into Alderley Edge from the Wilmslow side and has a large carpark so its great for meeting up with the family at the weekends or a great meeting point for weekday lunches or meetings.

On arrival we could see that it was very busy so we thought it must be good if nearly every table was taken up. We ordered our drinks and had a look at the menu… I already knew I wanted a chicken roast dinner so went for a light starter and chose the Chilli King Prawns… Ainslee went for the Rib-eye Steak and had the Scallops for his starter.

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~Starter~

The food was all beautifully presented and looked and tasted really fresh. The atmosphere was really cosy and we were sat right by the window so could look out onto the Alderley Edge countryside from our table. It was the perfect place for us to be spending our Sunday afternoon.

After devouring my roast dinner…. apart from Ainslee having to finish off my chicken (because the portions are so generous) I felt so full, but after looking at the desert menu we were both easily persuaded into ordering a desert. Ainslee ordered the Fruit Crumble because he loves a traditional desert and I went for the chocolate bomb… which I’m sure you have already seen on my social media channels… My desert was a chocolate bomb with caramel ice cream in the centre and popping candy around the outside… need I say anymore…

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~Desert~

I was also tempted by the selection of mini deserts that you can order.. so that you can try all of the deserts on the menu, but Ainslee was set on his crumble and I couldn’t of taken on all of that haha!

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~Sunday Outfit~

We will definitely be returning to The Merlin in Alderley Edge, whether its for meetings or for a Sunday lunch with the family. Because who doesn’t love a traditional english afternoon in a Cheshire Pub!

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~Coffees~

Check out The Merlin on social media

@TheMerlinAlderleyEdge

or

Visit their website

themerlin.co.uk

Intro

Okay, so I have wanted to do this blog post for sometime now and haven’t really known what to say…. Some of you may have known that I was recently pregnant and others may not… But yes I had a stillbirth.

A lot of my friends have been telling me to write my experience down on paper.. whether it’s just to help me process things, or to eventually tell my story to you all to raise awareness. So I started writing and ended up writing around 8 A4 pages and thought to myself I can’t put all of this into one post, so I have decided to dedicate part of my blog to ‘Stillbirth Awareness’ and tell you in small blog posts my story and how I am recovering from what I can only explain as the worst experience to happen to a woman and also try and give women advice and to create a community where you don’t need to be afraid to talk about it.

I’m not really very open about my personal life on social media but thought that because this is such a taboo subject and there doesn’t seem to be a lot out there to help people like myself, my aim is to open peoples eyes that this does happen, make people feel okay to talk about it and most of all to help other’s who have gone through the same experience and for women who are going through it… or women who it hasn’t even happened to yet.

Whether it’s yourself, a friend or a family member who has been through the tragedy of a still birth I would love for you to tell them about my new awareness program. Because no one should feel alone about this subject.

If you would like to talk to me personally about this subject please don’t hesitate to email me cheshiregossipgirl@gmail.com

I will be posting weekly posts sharing my story, talking about depression, body changes, trying again and how it’s really important to have family and friends around you.

Favourite products this month so far..

This month I have been so lucky in receiving some amazing products and of course I have tried and tested all of these products and have my absolute favourites of course. Along with all the amazing Kiehls products that I received.. I feel like I need a bit more time with those, so that I can get a real feel for which are my favourites and how Im getting on with them etc.

So lets start with OLAPLEX… I have been looking for a long time now, for that hair product that really makes me go ‘WOW’ I am growing my hair and even though my hair is very thick. I feel that because I get highlights a lot and it gets damaged through everyday styling and heating.. It was starting to feel really brittle and VERY tangled. Every time I washed my hair brushing it would be so painful… I would almost end up in tears because it was so knotted. So I was introduced to this product by Ben at HOB SALON in Hale Village and he gave me this product to try at home, along with going in for regular ‘OLAPLEX in-salon treatments’ and doing my weekly treatment at home, my hair is feeling so much healthier. It is now completely tangle free and I feel like my hair is so much stronger and also looks a lot healthier.

5* for this product

RRP £32 NOW £19.99 at JUSTMYLOOK or purchase from HOB SALON Hale

SILVER/PURPLE SHAMPOO

I have been on a mission to get my hair just how I like it this month and I felt that my hair was a very warm tone of blonde.. almost a little gingery… which I hated! So I was doing some research on how to get rid of those warm tones and try to get it a little more ashy… I also have a friend who has recommended using a silver shampoo, so whilst at the hairdressers I asked which one to go for and luckily for me System Professional were able to give me a bottle of their Silver Shampoo… Now I warn you all, this shampoo is PURPLE and I mean bright purple!!!! I was a little bit scared to use it for the first time.

HOW I APPLIED IT:

  • I jumped in the shower and wet my hair through.
  • I used a 50p size blob and massaged it into my hair (make sure you rub it in all the way to the ends of your hair.)
  • I left it on my hair whilst I showered, washed my face etc.
  • Then I rinsed it off, squeezed out excess water and applied a good conditioner.
  • Left that on whilst I shaved my legs and then I rinsed it off.

My hair instantly looked a lot cleaner, whiter and fresher. I highly recommend using the System Professional Silver shampoo. Not only does the product do exactly what it says on the bottle.. you also get a huge bottle and it is amazing value for money.

Systems Professionals You can purchase this product online or again at HOB SALONS

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Now finally this has to be my FAVOURITE product this month… it’s my new Olympus Pen e-pl7.. I was debating for a long time on which camera to go for and had heard some amazing reviews on this camera. I wanted this camera so that I could start vlogging and I think I made the right decision. From its stylish outer case to its flip down selfie screen, It has to be up there with some of the best cameras. And at only £399 It is definitely an investment for any other keen bloggers/vloggers. It has wifi so that you can quickly upload any photos and also a wide range of onscreen filters and editing tools. I think I have officially found my new best friend.

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I purchased mine from Jessops for £399 and if you go onto the Olympus website they also have some amazing accessories to go with it. such as stylish bags and leather straps. I think they will have to be my next treat.

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The SpinFactory in Wilmslow and Spinningfields.

Hi everyone.. I thought I would give you all an update on my classes so far at the Spin Factory. I am always up for trying something new especially when it comes to exercise, I like to mix up my exercise regime and also try out a new class each month… whether its a new class at the gym or at a different location. One of my New Year’s resolutions was to try and push myself out of my comfort zone at least once a week so I thought that going to a brand new environment for me and trying classes I have never done before would be a great place to start.

I have been to the Wilmslow Prospin venue a few times now and I am growing to really love it. everyone seems so friendly and the classes are really tough but the teachers are amazing at guiding you through the class if you have never been before and also making sure that you go at your own pace.. giving you different option and trying out the different options on your bike so that its a great workout for YOU! I love the fact that its not just SPIN classes at the Spin Factory.. the yoga classes and circuit classes are also a great workout and it means you can stay and do a few classes so that you get an amazing total body workout.

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I was in Manchester last week visiting some of my clients and also having a few meetings, so because I knew I was going into Manchester and I knew I would be having a break between meetings I checked the app to see what classes were on that day. Luckily Hailey was running a few classes around lunch time so I was able to do a quick spin class, followed by a 30 minute power flow yoga class. It was brilliant because normally when I’m in Manchester and have a gap I would of gone shopping and spent too much money haha! You can get changed after the class in the changing rooms and this then mean’t that I didn’t have to go home after a long day and do a workout…. because I’d already done it 🙂

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Feeling fab after visiting the Spin Factory MCR

Before I forget to mention to you all… when I booked my classes at Spin Factory MCR on their app (which is all on the same app as the Wilmslow app) once I had booked in for the classes it then told me that the classes were now fully booked… and I made sure that I booked 2 days before the class. So if you’re planning to go I would definitely recommend making your booking as soon as possible to avoid disappointment.

So far I am feeling much stronger since I started and also feeling much more energetic. I can’t wait to see my results after 1 months of being a Spin Factory member.

Get your glow on….

If you follow me on Instagram, these last few weeks I have been loving juicing and all things health. So I thought I would let you all know what I have been doing.

First of all I contacted Elitepro (Elite personal trainer Ainslee) and told him I was feeling sluggish, not only about my body but my skin was dry and I was having a bit of a breakout at the time. So straight away he told me that doing a 5 day juice/smoothie cleanse would help me to drop a few pounds and also because of all the nutrition in his recipes, it will make my skin amazing. I was up for anything so I gave it a go.

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The diet consisted of a berry smoothie first thing in the morning followed by a green juice at lunch time and then I would have a protein smoothie at tea time. Along with this I did light exercise, such as walking, light weights and a little bit of cardio. Nothing too strenuous as Ainslee told me that I may get light headed if I exert myself too much.

It was all going really well until day 3 where all I wanted was to eat some chocolate haha.. going to the supermarket was probably a bad idea when you haven’t had any food for 3 days!!! But anyway I stocked up on my fruit and veg and told myself I only had 2 more days to go! Once the 5 days were over Ainslee told me to introduce food slowly, for example eat things like chicken salads, fish and have lots of protein rich foods along with carrying on my my juices and shakes. Also upping my exercise for example go for a couple of runs a week (I like to run my regular 10k route) and lots of weights to tone up and get strong. I have to admit I was getting quite lazy before this so it gave me a complete restart!

After the 5 days were up I lost a total of 9lbs and my skin was feeling so much better. I went for an Oxygenating Facial at YOURBEAUTYPOD to give my skin a super blitz on not only the inside but also the outside… I have had so many facials at so many beauty salons but I have to say that I have found THE BEST! Rebecca does a range of different facials in her salon from the LED light facials, Oxygenation facial and also a lighter facial if you want something nice and gentle on the skin, along with her lash treatments and nails. You have to check her out…. Anyway the Oxygenation Facial always makes my skin look super clear and seems to last for ages. Perfect for the winter!

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Check her out on Instagram @YourBeautyPod

So here are 3 of my favourite JUICE/SMOOTHIE recipes that I loved whilst of the cleanse so you can do them at home:

Berry Smoothie (breakfast time for 1 person):

1 Small cup of Cranberry juice.

1 Banana

A hand full of frozen berries (you must have something frozen in a smoothie, otherwise it will be warm *Yuck*)

A hand full of Blueberries

1 Kiwi fruit

1 teaspoon of honey

1 teaspoon of coconut oil

Blend to a smooth consistency 

Green Juice:

You will need a juicer for this recipe, these can be quite expensive but they are 100% worth the money.

2 Sticks of celery

A hand full of Mint leaves

Half a Lime

A hand full of Spinach

1 pear

1 apple

A hand full of Kale

Delicious

Protein Smoothie:

1 small cup of Almond Milk

2 scoops of protein

1 banana

1 teaspoon honey

1 tablespoon Organic peanut butter

A hand full of frozen melon/or ice to make sure its cold.

Shop the machines:

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Blendtec Smoothie Maker
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Kurvings Juicer

If you try out this cleanse we would love to know how you get on… And also if you feel like you need a fitness revamp or a complete lifestyle change, we can not recommend Ainslee at Elitepro enough. Not only does he have years of experience under his belt, he is also super qualified with everything from fitness, weight loss, nutrition and so much more…. Check him out on social media @elitepro.fitness

Enjoy xoxo

900 Degrees launches in Wilmslow

We were so excited to visit 900 degrees when they invited us to try out their menu and see what this place had to offer! We had already heard about 900 degrees as we knew it had been brought over from LA so when we met Alex one of the founders of the restaurant chain he WOW’d us with excitement of how big the brand is in America and now that it is coming over to the UK, Wilmslow is the first one to open up with plans for a Manchester location and many more…

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For starters who doesn’t love pizza? Then to be told that it is all healthy fresh produce and made form the lightest dough, so that you don’t feel ‘stuffed’ after your pizza…. no wonder it fits so well into the no carb LA lifestyle. Whilst we are all panicking about how many calories we eat each day and making sure we don’t gain a few pounds….. we love how we can visit 900 degrees and not feel guilty for having a pizza with as many toppings as we like!!

The reason for the restaurant being called 900 degrees is that your pizza is cooked at 900 degrees, so it only takes 90 seconds to cook… meaning you don’t have to wait for your food, its literally as quick as having a sandwich made!!!

We also love how you can choose as many toppings as you like and no that the price will always be £8.99. From a quick bite to eat on your lunch break to dining in the evenings with your family or friends, this place is definitely the coolest new hangout in Cheshire.

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£8.99 for all pizzas and choose as many toppings as you like.

They also have a large soda machine where you can pick any flavour you like.. we had the Fanta Raspberry and Sprite Vanilla…. with so many more flavours to choose from, along with the Oreo and Nutella shakes and their mouth drooling deserts.

With a wine and alcohol list that is only otherwise available in Mayfair London, the perfect date night location or to enjoy a catch up with your girls. We cant wait to go again.

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Check them out of social media @900degrees and find them at 46 Parsonage Green
Wilmslow.

xoxo

RED DOOR MANCHESTER

Red Door Manchester launched back in April after undergoing a massive £350,000 refit… and WOW when we visited this underground cocktail bar in the centre of Manchester last week we did not expect to see this cool ‘New York Chic’ bar….

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Leaving Manchester Deansgate and walking into this New York style venue (by Living Ventures), before walking underground the amazing writing in lights really makes you want to stop and take a picture and gives you a feeling of entering a really ‘cool’ bar.

We were invited along to try out all their top cocktails on this occasion and we were certainly looked after by all of their staff. As I can’t drink alcohol myself (only mocktails because I’m pregnant) I thought it would be a good idea to take along a couple of friends who would be able to try all the cocktails out. From cocktails with caramel in that are set on fire, to tangy sugary grapefruit cocktails – They are obviously way above the rest when it comes to cocktails in Manchester and Cheshire.

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Mrs Jones
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Caramelised Rum Punch

The making of ‘Caramelised Rum Punch’

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South Beach Sours and something fruity for me.

As well as all of these cool cocktails Red Door also smashes the older more traditional cocktails such as the Porn Star Martini or Pina Colada. And their cocktail menu is pages long so if you are unsure of which cocktail you will like then you have plenty of choice at RED DOOR.

We found that Manchester was really lacking a cool place to go in Manchester that wasn’t a restaurant where you have to go out to eat or on the other end you have the night clubs in Manchester where you can’t hear your friends talk or can’t find somewhere to sit. RED DOOR is purely just for drinks and surrounding the bar are american style booths where you can sit with your friends, you can have a good conversation with your friends without having to shout over the music.

The perfect place to hang out with friends or start a big night out here and see where the night takes you. A popular place for hen parties also as they are renowned for their HUGE sharing cocktails.

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Check out their cocktail menu and opening times online at reddoor.uk.com

Thanks for reading xoxo

A little bit of lunch…

OK.. so we are officially obsessed with Australasia in Manchester.

They seem to do EVERYTHING from evening meals, high tea and even light lunches.

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After an afternoon of shopping last week we went along for a bite to eat (there was even so much choice for my pregnant self.) My favourite dish was the Vegetable Tempura – which is fried vegetables in the picture above, I could of had 2 of these dishes!!

We love how at Australasia you can either sit downstairs in their beautiful restaurant or you can relax upstairs in their Grand Pacific terrace, we can’t decide where we prefer to sit… But on this particularly raining day in Manchester we just wanted to be cosy inside.

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Red Fish Curry and Jasmine Rice + Pork Dumplings
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Stir fried mussels with chilli, sweet basil and peanuts

These are a selection of the dishes we shared… the fish curry was absolutely so delicious.

I couldn’t eat the mussels but wish I was allowed to eat them because they looked so good… My boyfriend was able to polish off the entire dish all to himself.

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Lychee and Ginger Panna Cotta + Pineapple Downunder cake with cherry and coconut

We love how fresh all the food is at Australasia, it all tastes so clean and healthy…. Even the deserts!!!!

Luxury Pregnancy Massage by YourBeautyPod

I was sooo looking forward to having a pregnancy massage with Your Beauty Pod, as I’m sure you’ll know if you have been pregnant before or if you are currently pregnant your body goes through so many changes.

As I am just coming up to 19 weeks I haven’t reached the point where I get back ache or struggle with water retention yet…. but as the first trimester wasn’t too kind on me with bad morning sickness, being constantly tired and having the worst breakout of spots from the sudden surge of hormones, I was so ready for Rebecca at Your Beauty Pod to work her magic on me.

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I LOVE visiting the city centre beauty room – As I often have meetings or have to visit clients in Manchester so when I know I can finish my day off with a visit to see Rebecca – It makes any day 100x better, she also does home visits so if you can’t get into Manchester or if you would just prefer to have your treatments done in your own home she can come to you.

When I arrived at Your Beauty Pod, Rebecca explained to me that because I am not very big yet, she was going to focus on my legs – exfoliating and massaging them.. which will prevent water retention as it boosts circulation and blood flow, then I can either have a head and neck massage or a facial… I decided to go for the facial as she always does an amazing job at clearing my skin up when I have a break out so I knew it would be amazing.

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All of the products that are used at Your Beauty Pod are all organic, natural products, perfect for mums-to-be and they all smell absolutely beautiful. From getting onto the heated beauty bed, having my legs and feet massaged to finishing the facial with a relaxing neck and shoulder massage… the whole treatment experience was bliss! I will be returning to Your Beauty Pod in a few months time when I am much bigger and can’t wait to tell you all about my experience.

Visit Your Beauty Pod on social media @YourBeautyPod on Instagram and Facebook, @BeccaBeautyPod on Twitter.

If you aren’t pregnant but want to visit Your Beauty Pod here are some more treatments you could have done.

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